Last night I had a long chat with someone who was struggling to let go of their past so they could step with confidence into a new relationship that is full of Godly possibilities and potential.
This is not an easy thing to do because when we get saved, we don’t automatically develop a case of amnesia. Our past did happen, we remember what we have done, what was done to us, and we form defense mechanisms to protect ourselves from being hurt again.
In order to let go of the past and move on we must undergo a process of transformation by daily renewing our mind with the word of God.
There is no easy way.
There are no shortcuts.
Denial does not work.
Hiding does not work.
Running does not work.
At some point we need to…
1. Stop running, hiding, denying
2. Acknowledge what has happened
3. Admit you need help
4. Find a trusted friend, counselor, and mentor to walk with
5. Commit to the long-term process of healing
6. Begin the hard work of replacing your thoughts with God’s thoughts
7. Be prepared to be uncomfortable
8. Relinquish control to God
9. Trust God knowing that He will not hurt you nor leave you nor forsake you
10. Stop blaming everyone else for what happened and where you are
11. Accept responsibility for your choices and responses from here on out; you can’t change the past but you can change the future
12. Break off old, destructive relationships
13. Be accountable
14. Try to journal your feelings and emotions
15. Be ruthlessly honest with yourself and God; He can handle it
16. Don’t allow your feelings to rule you
17. Choose obedience to God’s word whether you agree, understand, or feel like it
18. Don’t keep rehearsing the events of your past
19. Don’t keep nursing old wounds
20. Rest in God’s love, grace, and mercy; He has your back
The truth is when we are born again, we become a new creation in Christ Jesus. One of the verses that has been significant in my own journey of healing is 2 Corinthians 5:17, which declares, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.”
Freedom and liberty are available to all of us, but in order to walk in the fullness of our new stature as a brand new creation in Christ Jesus, we must choose to work out practically what Christ has worked within us.
Healing is a process. If you commit to the work required, then you WILL BE FREE.
Your past does not need to define your future.
Thank you God for Victor. Thank you God that he ‘liked’ this so that I could read it for myself :P. It’s comforting to know that I’m on the way to freedom! I feel secure about 1-11 but 12-20 are things that ebb and flow at times. 12 and 13 are happening, 14 generally comes naturally, 15-17 require daily evaluation, I still need reminders to stop 18 and 19 but 20 is something that I’m enjoying right now :).
“…old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.”