We talk about you every so often… and I can never seem to suppress the grin that plants itself on my face every time you get a mention :D. You often get brought up in our family prayer time… how awesome it is to have parents on your team, praying alongside you for the dreams and desires of your heart… I sincerely pray that you have a healthy relationship with your parents and they have a healthy and loving relationship that you can take pointers from :). As I get older, I seem to appreciate the ‘rents a lot more lols. There’s a saying that goes something along the lines of, ‘when you are a kid, you think your parents know everything… when you are a teen, you think your parents know nothing… and when you are an adult, you realise they may know a thing or two afterall’ :). I feel so privileged to have been drawn so much closer to these two people who have watched me grow… they know me inside out and back to front and yet, they love me still :D.
To think that there was a time when I was lying behind their backs which in turn created such a terrible strain on our relationship… it just makes me value them all the more. I know that I am so so so blessed to have such understanding, God-fearing parents who have always made the effort to keep communication lines open and available… they have always tried their best to explain themselves if our opinions clash, rather than simply pull the ‘I’m your mum/dad so what I say is final’ card which I’ve heard happens in many Asian families lols… I think that’s why I really love being an ABC… our family has taken the good from the Western culture (freedom of speech/opinions within families!) and maintained the good side of the ‘respect/honour your elders’ that I believe has its roots from the Bible (Exodus 20:12 comes to mind).
We’ve had time now to reflect on that period of time where trust and honesty had left the building and home was no longer the sanctuary that it once was (and is thankfully now again)… I can see clearly now how they knew things would have ended the way they did and they just wanted to protect me from the hurt and pain I went through…my dad recounted how he had felt so helpless during those days and how he realised that he just had to let me make my mistakes, trusting God to bring me out and then offer loving kindness and grace (as per our Heavenly Father) when the scales had finally been lifted from my eyes.
Not many people can say this (or would be embarrassed to say it) but I’m proud to say that my parents are two people who I’d call my best friends… I can’t wait for you to get to know them and laugh, cry, debate and chat with them over one of our home-cooked meals… they can’t wait to meet you either ;).